Life Strategy: Escape The Work/Life Balance Myth & Live Your Dreams!

Cube-with-photo-collection-38156155-2‘If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.’ Henry David Thoreau

‘All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.’ TE Lawrence

Do you ever feel like your work and life are out of balance? Have you ever felt trapped and frustrated by your job, your finances, or your personal circumstances? Do you dream of having greater work/life balance? [Read more…]

100 Posts! John Grisham & The 20 Mile March

Amundsen“ Writing’s still the most difficult job I’ve ever had – but it’s worth it.” John Grisham
“Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness is largely a matter of conscious choice and discipline.” Jim Collins
“The journey of 1000 miles begins with one step.” Lao Tzu

It’s time to celebrate my 100th post! I never thought I would get this far… Over 90,000 words and 22,358 reads in the last two years! Plus 5 books, a full-time job, a blended family, a new baby, twins on the way, a beach shack under construction and an array of other complications and challenges of everyday life. [Read more…]

Success Secrets 2: Be Like Water

IMG_5894“The nature of successful strategy is like the flow of water. Water runs away from the high ground and gravitates to the lower; avoiding the challenges and finding the opportunities…” Sun Tzu 772-476 BC

“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but those who are most responsive to change.” Charles Darwin 1809-1882

In this special ‘Success Secrets’ series we are looking at the hidden gems of wisdom that are often overlooked or misunderstood when the Challenging Waves of Life disrupt our Life Strategy to Live The Endless Summer. In this article I want to have a look at the very powerful and practical words of Sun Tzu – encouraging us to ‘be like water’ in order to be successful. [Read more…]

Success Secrets: Dream With Your Eyes Wide Open!

IMGP0492We all dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous, for they may act on their dreams with open eyes, to make them possible. T. E. Lawrence

Have you ever met someone who seemed to ‘have it all’? Happy and relaxed, a free spirit full of adventure, open to the universe, at ease with the challenges of life… able to cope well with setbacks, yet still somehow achieve all their goals in the various areas of their life – work, play, relationships and family… [Read more…]

Mid-Life Adventures: Fast Track Your Happiness!

DSC00314‘Everyone Dies But Not Everyone Truly Lives’ William Wallace – Braveheart

If You Think ‘Adventure’ is Dangerous try ‘Routine’, it’s Lethal’ – Paul Coelho

Confession: I used to feel frustrated with life – somewhat despondent, bored, stuck, restless. I used to engage in a self-debate about how ‘happy’ I was and how ‘great’ my life was surrounded by material possessions, my steady job and my social network… Despite this I would find my mind wandering and thinking about the “Walter Mitty” escapist fantasies of adventure and excitement only to silently curse and reprimand myself for such thoughts and the apparent selfishness of such adventures…

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Live Your Dreams! What is Holding You Back?

bigstock-Jet-Plane-Over-The-Tropical-Is-36332017-2 Have you ever had Dreams of an ‘Ideal Life’? I have always loved dreaming up what this would look like! When things got a bit stressful or challenging I would find myself imagining all sorts of escapist fantasies… living by the beach – or better still on some tropical island… working with a few close friends and imagining myself as some reclusive billionaire surfer… having amazing get togethers and dinner parties with family and friends who always got along well and never experienced a moment of tension of conflict…. playing with my kids and overseas family holidays where everyone was constantly upbeat, enjoying each other and happy… [Read more…]

My Mid-Life Crisis: From Surviving to Thriving

7T -midlife-crisis-1Mid-Life Crisis….

Do you know anyone who has had one?

Have you been there yourself?

For some people it is a sudden shock around the age of 40 when life suddenly seems to no longer be as fulfilling and the search for answers begins. For others, the search for answers and reflection on the meaning of life and finding fulfillment is more gradual with the gnawing feelings and questions beginning in their late 30s and lasting into their late 40s and beyond.

Whilst the timing of the onset to the Mid-Life crisis stage of development will be different for each of us, the outcomes we are seeking will be similar: Survive the Challenge of Transition and pursue a Life Strategy to Make A Difference in the World and Fulfill our Life Dreams. [Read more…]

Ride The Waves of Life Like a Pro: 7 Things You Need to Know

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‘You can’t stop the waves – but you can learn to surf!’

John Kabat-Zinn

I have a confession to make – until recently, despite all my years of psychology study and training, sometimes I would find myself stressing out about things – and know that I was over-reacting yet feel unable to stop the cycle of stress and worry! Has this ever happened to you?

You see it wasn’t that I didn’t understand the theory of stress management – I am a reasonably bright guy with a PhD on the topic. I think, looking back now, it was that I couldn’t simply and easily put this theory into practice when I needed it most.

Stress Management: Amateur or Pro? [Read more…]

Life Strategy: To Begin You Must First Decide

 

Cube-with-photo-collection-38156155-2‘If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.’

Henry David Thoreau

 

  I have had a bad case of “writer’s block” lately as I have been finalising  a book about Life Strategy. I had finished the manuscript yet felt something was missing  – there was something very important about Life Strategy I had not addressed. I couldn’t articulate what this ‘missing link’ was but felt strongly that I needed to postpone the book until I had worked out what it was….. [Read more…]

Self Discipline: Delaying Gratification for Success

Self Discipline

With self-discipline most anything is possible. Theodore Roosevelt

As someone who has struggled with Self-Discipline for most of my life I can confess that self-discipline has been core to the successes I have had in life and conversely the lack of self-discipline the main reason for my many failures. It will come as no surprise for you to learn that my experiences are not unique in this regard and Self Discipline or the lack thereof lies at the heart of most successes and failures in life. [Read more…]