Mindsets: Change The Backstory of Your Life!

Mindset Stones‘The Backstory Hides The Key To Success’ Dr Pete PhD

Let’s explore further why affirmations fail. Have you heard of the (dysfunctional) exercise of looking into the mirror each day to tell yourself you are beautiful to boost your self-esteem? Why is it that sometimes we do not feel beautiful despite the fact we look into the mirror and tell ourselves we are beautiful every day?

In the last blog we discovered that the reason affirmations often fail us is that they don’t engage our thinking patterns at the deeper levels where our unhealthy mindsets are hidden. Whilst our surface thinking may be changed through our affirmations and mantras, the deeper unhealthy mindsets remain unaffected and so our negative views remain intact despite the positive things we say to ourselves in the mirror. We refer to these important layers of thinking as the ‘Story’, which represents our surface thinking and the “Back-Story” which represented our deeper level mindsets.

In order to become more resilient and happy in life we need to be able to (1) quickly and easily uncover the Mindsets that have created a negative back-story to our lives, and (2) genuinely challenge and change these negative Mindsets to re-write this into a more positive and helpful back-story for the future of our lives. [Read more…]

Forgiveness: What You Leave Behind….

forgiveness road sign illustration designLife is at times hard and people can be cruel to one another. Careless harsh words spoken ‘in only a few seconds can open profound wounds which can take many years to heal.’ One of my favorite lines from the popular poem ‘The Interview With God’ (author unknown).

We each have our own stress responses when confronting Challenging Waves of Life and our unhealthy reactions can place a lot of pressure on our family, friends and colleagues. Many of us know what it is to become overwhelmed, lose control and lash out at others in anger. Others know the fear and terror of being on the receiving of such outbursts. [Read more…]