The Top 10 in 2014

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The only thing constant in life is change’   François de la Rochefoucauld

What a big year 2014 has been! It feels like there has been more turmoil and change in the world this year than other recent years. We’ve had more than our fair share of wars, conflict, and disasters both man-made and natural.

We’ve also had an increasing recognition of the importance of global warming and climate change as well as the ever-present challenges of job security and financial pressures as we try to provide for our families and maintain some semblance of work/life balance. [Read more…]

Wake Up Call: Stop Talking & Start Caring!

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“Actions speak louder than words…” Mark Twain

Have you ever had a ‘wake up call’ about how you live your life? I had one the other day – a moment where I suddenly got some deeper perspective about the difference between my daily hassles and first world problems and the much more profound problems many people face in their lives…

I was chatting with my friends over dinner one evening and the conversation topic was around defining moments in our lives. As we all spoke about different events that had shaped our lives my friend began telling me about an incident during his early twenties, which had left some deep emotional scars. [Read more…]

Success Secrets 2: Be Like Water

IMG_5894“The nature of successful strategy is like the flow of water. Water runs away from the high ground and gravitates to the lower; avoiding the challenges and finding the opportunities…” Sun Tzu 772-476 BC

“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but those who are most responsive to change.” Charles Darwin 1809-1882

In this special ‘Success Secrets’ series we are looking at the hidden gems of wisdom that are often overlooked or misunderstood when the Challenging Waves of Life disrupt our Life Strategy to Live The Endless Summer. In this article I want to have a look at the very powerful and practical words of Sun Tzu – encouraging us to ‘be like water’ in order to be successful. [Read more…]

Family Indecision: NOT Deciding IS Deciding!

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‘Whilst I may not have the key to success, I do know that the key to failure is trying to please everybody’  

‘Does the dog wag the tail or is the tail actually wagging the dog?’ 

Has this ever happened to you?

Scene 1: You are having some family discussions about a forthcoming holiday and discussing a range of possible activities only to here your kids say “I don’t mind” or “Whatever”… You then go ahead and book the activities only to be told later – “I don’t want to do that activity…” Or worse, during the activity the kids are withdrawn and bored ruining it for everyone… [Read more…]

Difficult Conversations: Aggression, Manipulation & Emotion

Difficult Conversations 2Have you ever had to have a ‘Difficult Conversation’ with someone? Have you ever had to say ‘no’, set limits, or provide feedback about bad behaviour to someone at work, at home or in the community? The other day I had to provide some feedback to someone as part of conflict resolution in their workplace and they got really upset and started shouting and then subsequently complained about why their manager and peers had not given them feedback sooner….. [Read more…]

Family Values: Under Pressure & Celebrating Success!

IMG_5645“If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything” Unknown

What are your family’s core values? What are the foundation stones, the key principles, the non-negotiables that provide a guiding light to show your family the way ahead when facing the challenging Waves of Life? [Read more…]

Mid-Life Tsunami #6: Family & Carer Problems

 

7T 6-family-problems-1Family & Carer Problems is the 6th Mid-Life Tsunami  in this special series to celebrate the release of my new book “The  7 Mid-Life Tsunamis” [Read more…]

Mid-Life Tsunami #1: Separation & Divorce

7T 1-separation-divorceIn this special series of articles, to celebrate the release of my new book “The  7 Mid-Life Tsunamis” I am going to provide so quick tips and hazard points about each of the 7 Mid-Life Tsunamis to help you face the turmoil of mid-life. Separation & Divorce is the first and most severe Mid-Life Tsunami many of us face during Mid-Life. [Read more…]

The Top 10 Waves of Life: Not all Waves are Equal!

Waves of Life diagmam landscape-3When I was training as a psychologist one of the most important things I was taught was to remember that each person reacts to Stressful Life Events (Waves of Life) differently and as such an event that may be extremely distressing for one person may not be as distressing for another. But after 20 years of study and practice this is not the whole story….. [Read more…]

Over-Communicate: Less is NOT More

Dr Pete Presenting‘Less is more’ Mies van der Rohe 

 Less is less, not more:Less is more’ is a famous saying by the architect Mies van der Rohe for his minimalist design approach of the 1920s and 1930s which inspired the design of many common objects we have today including iPhones and iPods.

However when it comes to communication and relationships Less is Less – causing risks of conflict through wrong assumptions, misunderstood statements that were never clarified, and misread body language and gestures. [Read more…]