Emotional Awareness (or Not?)

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“Like Water That Flows So Are The Tears Of Our Emotions”

“You’re Emotions Are Important Passengers BUT Never Let Them Drive!”

Dr Pete PhD

After all these years working as a psychologist I am still amazed at how difficult it is for bright and capable people who are under pressure to be able to identify and separate their thoughts and emotions.

Most people may think they are emotionally aware but when they are struggling with challenging waves of life they often lack self-awareness. Have a look at these two cases below:

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Success Secrets 5: Not Confusing Vision & Action

IMG_5645“When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps” Confucius

“They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom” Confucius

Have you ever been disappointed in life? Had an amazing dream that was ruined by unexpected misfortune? Given up on your goals and settled for mediocrity? I did. [Read more…]

My Parenting Fails: Personal Freedom vs Peer Group Safety

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Being a parent is tough! After many years in the trenches (with many more to come!) I want to share one of the more difficult issues I have had to grapple with.

As parents we all want our children to grow up feeling loved, being educated and being physically fit among many other things. We also want our kids to make friends and develop good relationship skills. Finally most of us want our kids to be independent thinkers and learn to love and respect themselves despite the moods and criticisms of others.

In helping our children towards all these important goals, the tension between building their individuality and self-confidence, and navigating the dangers and social pressures of the playground can be quite problematic. [Read more…]

Burnout: For Love or Money?

Burnout Doctor“Love what you do and you will never work a day in your life” Unknown

It’s confession time… I have had a pretty major case of burnout in previous years – an experience which was really distressing at the time but taught me some powerful life lessons. [Read more…]

The Rescuer’s Dark Legacy

Rescuer Dark Legacy“Sometimes the Hero unwittingly ends up the Villain” – Simon Thatcher

Do you know someone who is a Compulsive Rescuer? Do you know someone who gets their thrills by helping people escape their (often self-inflicted) first world problems? If you took a good look at their inner circle of friends, are they the most stable and successful person?

Could that ‘someone you know’, really also be you at times?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above then read onwards my friend, for this should be of interest… [Read more…]

Dare to Live Greatly: A Revelation

IMGP0578I want to share with you one of the quotes I hold most sacred – I wish I had read it much earlier in my life. It guides and shapes my outlook on life, my approach to risk and adventure, and  my commitment to kindness and humanity… [Read more…]

My Mid-Life Crisis: From Surviving to Thriving

7T -midlife-crisis-1Mid-Life Crisis….

Do you know anyone who has had one?

Have you been there yourself?

For some people it is a sudden shock around the age of 40 when life suddenly seems to no longer be as fulfilling and the search for answers begins. For others, the search for answers and reflection on the meaning of life and finding fulfillment is more gradual with the gnawing feelings and questions beginning in their late 30s and lasting into their late 40s and beyond.

Whilst the timing of the onset to the Mid-Life crisis stage of development will be different for each of us, the outcomes we are seeking will be similar: Survive the Challenge of Transition and pursue a Life Strategy to Make A Difference in the World and Fulfill our Life Dreams. [Read more…]

Mid-Life Tsunami #5: Personal Injury & Illness

7T 5-injury-illness-1Personal Injury & Illness is the 5th Mid-Life Tsunami  in this special series to celebrate the release of my new book “The  7 Mid-Life Tsunamis”. [Read more…]

Mid-Life Tsunami #1: Separation & Divorce

7T 1-separation-divorceIn this special series of articles, to celebrate the release of my new book “The  7 Mid-Life Tsunamis” I am going to provide so quick tips and hazard points about each of the 7 Mid-Life Tsunamis to help you face the turmoil of mid-life. Separation & Divorce is the first and most severe Mid-Life Tsunami many of us face during Mid-Life. [Read more…]

Commitment & Unexpected Providence

 Mountains “Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred.” WH Murray

I love this quote from WH Murray – a distinguished mountaineer, soldier, prisoner of war and writer. [Read more…]