Success Secrets 5: Not Confusing Vision & Action

IMG_5645“When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps” Confucius

“They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom” Confucius

Have you ever been disappointed in life? Had an amazing dream that was ruined by unexpected misfortune? Given up on your goals and settled for mediocrity? I did. [Read more…]

My Parenting Fails: Personal Freedom vs Peer Group Safety

Kids Playing
Being a parent is tough! After many years in the trenches (with many more to come!) I want to share one of the more difficult issues I have had to grapple with.

As parents we all want our children to grow up feeling loved, being educated and being physically fit among many other things. We also want our kids to make friends and develop good relationship skills. Finally most of us want our kids to be independent thinkers and learn to love and respect themselves despite the moods and criticisms of others.

In helping our children towards all these important goals, the tension between building their individuality and self-confidence, and navigating the dangers and social pressures of the playground can be quite problematic. [Read more…]

TMI? You Need A Low Information Diet!

TMI Info Overload

“There are many things of which a wise man might wish to be ignorant” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Time wasted is gone forever” Jason Misso

TMI – Too Much Information OR is it Time to Minimise Information? A few weeks ago I was busy surfing the internet doing ‘research’ on social media strategy, twitter plug-ins, meme building apps, checking out the cool blogs of people I follow and impulsively watching the news every few hours and wondering why the same articles kept re-appearing – sound familiar? [Read more…]

Family Indecision: NOT Deciding IS Deciding!

Frustration


‘Whilst I may not have the key to success, I do know that the key to failure is trying to please everybody’  

‘Does the dog wag the tail or is the tail actually wagging the dog?’ 

Has this ever happened to you?

Scene 1: You are having some family discussions about a forthcoming holiday and discussing a range of possible activities only to here your kids say “I don’t mind” or “Whatever”… You then go ahead and book the activities only to be told later – “I don’t want to do that activity…” Or worse, during the activity the kids are withdrawn and bored ruining it for everyone… [Read more…]

Are You Really Listening?

Listening“God gave us two ears and one mouth, so we ought to listen twice as much as we speak.” Irish Proverb

Have you ever spoken to someone who seemed to really understand you? Doesn’t it feel great to spend time with someone who listens to your concerns and provides support?  [Read more…]

Happy Families: Clear Boundaries & Inclusive Planning

TSS Happy FamilyWhen I think about growing up, my happiest times were when I felt like I had a clear understanding of our family’s rules and boundaries and also when I was included in discussions about some of the big decisions we made regarding the Waves of Life we faced. [Read more…]

Happy Children P1: Giving vs Learning (& Earning)

TSS Child Learning & Earning“You can give a man a fish and feed him for a day or teach a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime” (Unknown)

Raising children is said to be one of the most challenging but also one of the most rewarding Waves of Life. As a father of two girls heading towards their teenage years – I would have to agree. In trying to be a super dad, it seems there are ever-increasing expectations on my time, energy and money.

As kids grow older their lists of ‘wants’ and ‘needs’ seem to get bigger and bigger. Yet it seems like every time the latest technology device or toy has been bought, movie has been watched, theme park has been visited or fashion accessory acquired it is quickly replaced by a new ‘want’ which rapidly becomes a ‘need’. Moreover, the cycle of the kids wanting and needing more and me fulfilling them seems to get faster and faster as they get older, in turn making me poorer and poorer – yet the kids don’t seem to be any more content or satisfied with life.

Surely there must be a better way than this? It seems that the more I give to make them happy, the more it takes for them to actually be happy….. [Read more…]