Life Strategy: Escape The Work/Life Balance Myth & Live Your Dreams!

Cube-with-photo-collection-38156155-2‘If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.’ Henry David Thoreau

‘All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.’ TE Lawrence

Do you ever feel like your work and life are out of balance? Have you ever felt trapped and frustrated by your job, your finances, or your personal circumstances? Do you dream of having greater work/life balance? [Read more…]

Optimism: A Hazard Warning!

Optimism HazardThere’s no difference between a pessimist who says, “Oh, it’s hopeless, so don’t bother doing anything,” and an optimist who says, “Don’t bother doing anything, it’s going to turn out fine anyway.” Either way, nothing happens.  Yvon Chouinard

Being optimistic is a good thing, right? Not necessarily – it will either be an amazing blessing or be more harmful then helpful depending on what type of optimism we’re talking about.

Did you know there are two types of optimism? Healthy Optimism which gives us an unshakeable belief in a positive future (the best is yet to come) and fortitude necessary to endure hardship along the way; and an Unhealthy Optimism which where we create amazing dreams and fantasies with deadlines which if unmet lead to hopelessness and despair. Let me explain….

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Purpose: A Tale of Two Bridge Crossings

“Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how’.”Medieval Bridge

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.”

Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

Did you know that to live a happy and fulfilled life there are two bridges you must cross?

One bridge sits over the mighty rivers and deltas that mark the major milestones of your life. The other bridge sits over the many small streams, creeks and marshes that you must cross everyday. [Read more…]

100 Posts! John Grisham & The 20 Mile March

Amundsen“ Writing’s still the most difficult job I’ve ever had – but it’s worth it.” John Grisham
“Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness is largely a matter of conscious choice and discipline.” Jim Collins
“The journey of 1000 miles begins with one step.” Lao Tzu

It’s time to celebrate my 100th post! I never thought I would get this far… Over 90,000 words and 22,358 reads in the last two years! Plus 5 books, a full-time job, a blended family, a new baby, twins on the way, a beach shack under construction and an array of other complications and challenges of everyday life. [Read more…]

Success Secrets 7: Busy is Better Than Boredom or Burnout!

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If you want something done ask a busy person! Benjamin Franklin

Have you ever asked someone to do something for you only to have to eventually do it yourself – often in a last-minute rush? At work I have suffered the ‘delegation curse’ of assigning a task to someone and then either not having it done properly and/or unexpected delays in it being completed. I then find myself either re-doing the task, (often when I don’t have time) or nagging and micro managing to get things done by due dates – only to damage relationships with my colleagues! [Read more…]

Purpose In Life P2: What You Need to Do!

Purpose Fire“The purpose of life is to contribute in some way to making things better”
Robert F. Kennedy

“They who have a ‘why’ will endure any ‘how’”
Nietzsche

To successfully Ride The Waves of Life, you need to ignite the fire of your inner Purpose so it becomes the compass that gives direction to your life. Like the Fire burns hot, so does will your passion and Purpose for life. Having a clear sense of purpose and personal mission allows you to know the true direction for your life, enabling you to make every day a masterpiece and leave a positive legacy.

In Part 1 of Purpose In Life we took some time to better understand the concept of Purpose In Life (What You Need to Know). In this article we cover Part 2,  the some practical steps we can take to enhance our own sense of Purpose In Life (What You Need to Do). [Read more…]

Purpose In Life P1: What You Need to Know!

Purpose Fire“The purpose of life is to contribute in some way to making things better”
Robert F. Kennedy

“They who have a ‘why’ will endure any ‘how”
Nietzsche

To successfully Ride The Waves of Life, you need to ignite the fire of your inner Purpose so it becomes the compass that gives direction to your life. Like the Fire burns hot, so does will your passion and Purpose for life. Having a clear sense of purpose and personal mission allows you to know the true direction for your life, enabling you to make every day a masterpiece and leave a positive legacy. [Read more…]

Mid-Life Adventures: Fast Track Your Happiness!

DSC00314‘Everyone Dies But Not Everyone Truly Lives’ William Wallace – Braveheart

If You Think ‘Adventure’ is Dangerous try ‘Routine’, it’s Lethal’ – Paul Coelho

Confession: I used to feel frustrated with life – somewhat despondent, bored, stuck, restless. I used to engage in a self-debate about how ‘happy’ I was and how ‘great’ my life was surrounded by material possessions, my steady job and my social network… Despite this I would find my mind wandering and thinking about the “Walter Mitty” escapist fantasies of adventure and excitement only to silently curse and reprimand myself for such thoughts and the apparent selfishness of such adventures…

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Live Your Dreams! What is Holding You Back?

bigstock-Jet-Plane-Over-The-Tropical-Is-36332017-2 Have you ever had Dreams of an ‘Ideal Life’? I have always loved dreaming up what this would look like! When things got a bit stressful or challenging I would find myself imagining all sorts of escapist fantasies… living by the beach – or better still on some tropical island… working with a few close friends and imagining myself as some reclusive billionaire surfer… having amazing get togethers and dinner parties with family and friends who always got along well and never experienced a moment of tension of conflict…. playing with my kids and overseas family holidays where everyone was constantly upbeat, enjoying each other and happy… [Read more…]

Can You Really Control How Happy You Feel?

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Question: Can You Really Control How Happy You Feel?

“If you want the joy of rainbows – you gotta put up with the rain” Unknown

I have spent my entire life believing you can change how happy you feel at any given moment… I have posted numerous blogs on the subject, tweeted and re-tweeted over a thousand comments, and have written 5 books on living a happy life and improving your wellbeing.

More recently though, I read a series of articles in response to a social media campaign called ‘100 Days of Happiness’ whereby a number of leading Psychologists and Psychiatrists were openly critical of the notion that you could be continuously happy for 100 days. Here’s an excerpt from one article summarizing what many experts from around the world had to say about being continuously happy: [Read more…]